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You cannot be one thing while you’re focusing on trying not to be someone else. Too often, people focus on being “not pushy” or “not mean.” The end result is not what you are looking for. Rather, look at all situations through the filter of who you actually need to be to create the ultimate outcome for you. By doing this, you are able to show up in a much stronger way and become the person who creates the sustainable results you are seeking.